How To Deal With Opposite Sex Friendship After Marriage

The idea of maintaining friendship with opposite sex seems to have ruined many marriages. In fact, researches depict that many frown at the idea of keeping opposite sex friends after marriage or while in an exclusive relationship. This is because of fear that such relationship attracts jealousy and suspicion which affects the couple’s conjugal life.

However, it may be practically impossible especially for the career women, socialites as well as people that have a career in arts and entertainment to shut their friendship door against people of opposite sex. This makes it imperative to find out how well to manage such relationship without creating chaos or crisis in the existing marriage.

Here Are Few Tips To Deal With Such Relationship:

Establish clear boundaries

Before forging ahead with opposite sex friendship when you are in a relationship, you must be sure that you have clarified the boundaries with the friend in question.

For instance, some single ladies have a penchant for developing a thing for their married counterparts owing to a perceived sense of responsibility and commitment on the part of the latter.

However, establishing boundaries creates ‘guardrails’ for your marriage or relationship.

Set the sails aright

If you intend to keep an opposite sex friendship while in a working relationship, it is pertinent that precautionary measures are taken.

You must ensure that your spouse or partner knows your friend, reassure him/her of your unparalleled loyalty to the relationship and that there are no (potential) emotional attachments associated with the friendship.

Address your partner’s concerns

Post-marriage opposite sex friendship without precautionary strategies can potentially send your relationship to the grave.

It is important that you communicate with your partner and address his/her concerns on the said friendship, ensuring that the trust remains consolidated.

Ensure your partner is comfortable with the intensity of the friendship, the type of interactions you have with him/her and oblige with your partner’s conditions concerning same — even if it means aborting or significantly limiting the friendship.

Bridge Communication Gap

Many marriages fail because of sheer carelessness and the failure of the partners to keep the communication lines open.

Erecting of a ‘wall of secrecy’ while indulging in opposite sex friendships readily spells doom for the relationship in question and can wrongly imply the partner is having an (extramarital) affair.

Know When To Quit

Not many lovers feel secure on coming to learn of their partner’s opposite sex friends, hence, a conscious effort often has to be taken if the relationship at stake is to be preserved.

Knowing when to call it quits is one good way of ensuring that.

When ‘friendship’ starts leading to romantic fantasies, when you start pitching your partner against your opposite sex friend or comparing them, then the time is rife to let go of the friendship.

Reinforce your loyalty

Prior trust issues compounded by lack of proper communication in budding relationships are often detrimental to the union itself.

Reassuring your spouse or partner of your utter commitment and loyalty to the relationship, both verbally and by means of practical measures, might be a good way of successfully keeping an opposite sex friendship without hurting your relationship.

Include your partner in the friendship

If you must keep an opposite sex friend but find it difficult to keep up with your partner’s incessant suspicions, then you should consider including him/her in the friendship